Dating for the chronically ill
Americans are no worse off than they were when the last recession hit, in other words, but a decade of growth has not made them more secure, either.These health issues present a number of challenges that would take up a whole page to list them out.Below are some of the things I learned about dating from these women: • The most important thing to keep in mind is that you are not your diagnosis.Yes, it is part of your life, but it’s just that “part” and not “all” of it.That noted, many of people I know that are recently coupled, regardless of age, sexual orientation or diagnosis, have met through on-line dating.According to various different rankings, Match.com, Zoosk, e-Harmony, Elite consistently appear among the top five sites.Relationships work best if they are on equal footing. • In terms of finding the date, doing things you enjoy that involve other people, such as hiking, film series, book club, food or wine tasting etc., is a good way to meet someone who shares similar interests.Attending condition specific events, such as a boat trip fundraiser or support groups, can be another way to meet someone.
At a time when people lost jobs and housing because of their HIV status, there were many issues to be dealt with when disclosing to a date.
She said that if in the heat of the moment she forgot to mention her HIV status, there would be no confusion on that score. Unless you met them in a support group, or an on-line dating service where you have either revealed your diagnosis or it’s a condition specific site, you may wait a few dates.
However, if you are about to be sexual, or this looks like it has the potential to be a relationship, then let them know.
You have much to offer others, so your health issues are just one part of who you are.
• Don’t settle for someone because “they’ll have me.” You can end up in a very unhealthy and/or abusive relationship by believing it’s better to be with somebody then to be alone.
No matter your age, dating and finding a relationship isn’t easy.